A “rainbow baby” is a baby born after the loss of a previous pregnancy, infant, or child, shining hope through the storm clouds of grief over the loss of a baby that came before them.
Rainbow baby Mamas are the courageous mothers who choose the hope of having a baby over the fear of another loss.
As a mama of two rainbow babies myself, I love to see other brave mamas like me sharing their stories of hope while recognizing their losses. That’s why I founded Pregnancy After Loss Support, a place where we celebrate rainbow baby mamas every day, and we want to share with you why they give us “all the feels.”
Because of their willingness to share their losses
People don’t make space for us to share our pain as much as they do to share our joys, but both matter. Rainbow baby mamas give us permission to recognize our losses, which are intermingled with our joy, while also bringing awareness to the pain of losing a pregnancy and child that is often silenced. Dr. Jessica Zucker raises that awareness with her #IHadAMiscarriage campaign and rainbow Mama + Babe T-shirt line.
Because of their friendships
Rainbow baby mamas are loss mamas who went on to have a baby after experiencing a loss, and loss mamas are tight! No one else knows the struggle of losing a child like another mom who has lost her own child. The bond between loss moms is real, and rainbow baby mamas are celebrating across the world with the new trend of beautiful group maternity photos like this one.
Because of their courage
No one has more courage than the rainbow baby mama! Losing a baby is the hardest thing a mama will ever go through, and getting pregnant again is the next hardest! These inspiring mamas show great bravery as they persist through the darkness of grief in hopes of a rainbow after the storm. They continue to inspire through the beautiful maternity photos and pregnancy announcements they share that capture their courage in captivating ways.
Because of their connection
Rainbow baby mamas have each other’s back! Even strangers who have just met will embrace and support their fellow rainbow baby mamas. The once secret code of “rainbow baby” is no longer secret. A rainbow baby T-shirt can connect fellow mamas, like the viral story of Courtney and Autumn, who embraced each other’s strength and became friends after Courtney recognized the “code” in Autumn’s maternity shirt ― a connection that only shared loss and courage can bring.
Because they give us hope
We need rainbow baby mamas to share their stories for those of us who have newly lost our babies. We look to them for hope that the dream of parenting is possible and that one day we too will bring home our rainbow baby.
Because, well, of course, their cute rainbow baby pictures
Who wouldn’t love these?!
*Originally published at HuffPost.
I felt as if my world had ended when I lost my first baby at 20 weeks she was only as big as 16 weeks 8oz this was back in 1956. I was so alone my mother was 2500 miles away I thought I would never have another baby
God knew better and gave us a little red-headed baby boy so he’s my rainbow ? baby’ he’s not so little any more has given me 3 grandchildren and 1 greatgrand life is good just know you are not alone There are lots of Rainbow mama’s out here we are with you
I had four unexplained miscarriages in different stages of pregnancy from 2006-2009. In my fifth pregnancy I had my rainbow baby and he was born on New Year’s Day 2010. I always felt like his birthday was so special because it’s a day that the whole world is celebrating. I had my second rainbow baby in 2012. They both have autism and while it presents it’s challenges, they are the most amazing, loving and extraordinary children I could ever imagine having.
Even though I had such horrible memories of my pregnancy losses, now that I’ve gotten to know my children I would never want different children so all those losses, while still painful were necessary because my rainbow babies weren’t ready to be born yet.
There was a point where I almost gave up hope but I never wanted to stop trying. It was very easy for me to get pregnant but after a while I started to just become detached and expect the worst. A friend said to me one day, “you’ll have the baby you’re meant to have.“ I hadn’t heard that expression before and it actually was a nice thing to hear. All I can say is never give up. If I had given up after two or three or even the fourth I wouldn’t have my babies now. Best of luck and my prayers for those who are struggling but always keep trying.