On the first Sunday of May, we recognize Bereaved Mother’s Day, which is followed the next Sunday by Mother’s Day. Loss parents experience many feelings around these holidays. Know that whatever you are feeling, those feelings are valid.

You are a mother - Tips from Pregnancy After Loss Support to Survive Mother’s Day

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To help you cope as we approach Mother’s Day, we wanted to share our five tips for surviving Mother’s Day.

Tip #1: It’s OK to remind people that this is not your first Mother’s Day.

Tip #1: It’s OK to remind people that this is not your first Mother’s Day.

No matter where you on your journey after loss–whether you just experienced your loss, you’re trying to conceive after your loss, you’re pregnant after loss, or your parenting your child born after loss–you are a mother and deserve to be celebrated and acknowledged on Mother’s Day. If you are pregnant or parenting after loss, it’s OK to remind people that this is not your first Mother’s Day.

Tip #2: Feel free to ask people to include all of your children in your Mother’s Day cards.

Tip #2: Feel free to ask people to include all of your children in your Mother’s Day cards.

Loss parents love to see and hear their babies names. Let your loved ones know how much it would mean to you to have all of your children included in your Mother’s Day cards.

Tip #3: Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to feel all of the feelings you have.

Tip #3: Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to feel all of the feelings you have.

Mother’s Day is such a bittersweet day for loss moms. And not everyone experiences the holiday in the same way. Feel what you need to feel. Validate each one of those feelings.

Tip #4: There is no “right” or “wrong” way to celebrate Mother’s Day. Do what works for you.

Tip #4: There is no “right” or “wrong” way to celebrate Mother’s Day. Do what works for you.

Only you know what will be most helpful and validating for you on Mother’s Day. Want to celebrate your motherhood? Go for it! Want to hide under the covers all day? That’s a completely valid response. Want to have a quiet day with a special activity to remember your baby who died? That sounds lovely. Do what you need to do. There is no right or wrong way for you to acknowledge (or not) this day.

Tip #5: Remember, you are still a mother to all of your children, even if you can only hold some in your heart.

Tip #5: Remember, you are still a mother to all of your children, even if you can only hold some in your heart.

Hear this. It is important. You are a mother. You are a mother to all of your children. The world may not see you as such, but they don’t know the love you hold in your heart for your babies who are not with you. You. Are. A. Mother.

Our hearts are with you. May your day be just what you need it to be. May you feel loved and supported. And may your babies be remembered.

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A Special Way to Acknowledge Your Motherhood

One of the things loss parents crave is to hear and see their babies’ names, an acknowledgment that their babies existed, that they mattered. And that’s one of the things that makes our Annual PALS Waddle Walk t-shirts so special. Each year, you have the opportunity to include your baby’s name on the back of every Waddle Walk t-shirt. It’s always so emotional to receive these shirts and see all of these babies’ names together. They are forever loved, forever missed.

Thoma family in all five of their Waddle Walk T-shirts

One family shows their baby’s name on the back of the first five Waddle Walk t-shirts – Photo Credit: Elizabeth Thoma

Acknowledge and celebrate your motherhood to ALL of your babies, and join us for our 6th Annual PALS Waddle Walk. Register today. This year’s Waddle Walk is the weekend of June 29-30, 2024. This virtual walk happens right in your neighborhood. Get all the details here.

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