PALS blogger Amanda Ross-White delivers the keynote at the National Nursing Assessment Service Conference

PALS blogger Amanda Ross-White delivers the keynote at the National Nursing Assessment Service Conference

Stillbirth does not get enough attention. It does not get enough attention from researchers. It does not get enough attention from the doctors, midwives and nurses who care for us. It does not get enough attention from the public. This needs to change!

Pregnancy after loss gets even less attention. Despite the fact that half of all women who have a stillbirth go on to have another pregnancy! PALS is doing what it can to support women who are pregnant again after a stillbirth, miscarriage or neonatal death. But we’re also working to make sure that health care professionals know more about the challenges we face as we try again to get pregnant, have a healthy and stress-free pregnancy, and deliver our baby safely.

In October, as part of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, I was invited to speak at the National Nursing Assessment Service conference. The National Nursing Assessment Service is an organization that works with foreign-trained nurses to get their credentials recognized here in Canada. They are nurses that work in all areas of nursing. Some are nurses who teach and some are nurses who work for the regulatory colleges.

I chose to focus my talk on both the experience of stillbirth and the ways in which a strong relationship with our care team ensures that we have a positive experience in our next pregnancy.

I remember when I came in to be induced with my rainbow. The nurses did such a great job of telling me how they understood that this wasn’t a normal pregnancy. They acknowledged my sons and let me know that they were thinking of them as I prepared to give birth to my daughter. They also told me that it was important to them that I have a very positive experience this time around.

The nurses I spoke to at the conference understood too. Even if they didn’t work in labour and delivery, they knew how the loss of our baby would change everything. And it has.

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