It is a question that might be causing you some concern – when pregnant again, do I go back to the same doctor or midwife I had for my loss? Or do I find someone else?
Maybe the choice is out of your hands. You’ve moved since your last pregnancy. Or your doctor has since retired. Maybe you’re now considered high risk and your previous doctor won’t see you. You have to bite the bullet and find someone new.
In my case, the choice was easy and I didn’t want to leave. I work right across the street from the hospital, and there’s a medical school here, so I had plenty of choice within the hospital. But there are only a handful of high-risk obstetricians and I knew that losing my babies wasn’t the fault of my doctor. My husband wasn’t so happy with the choice, and he didn’t want me to see him again. But I felt comfortable with him and knew he understood what I’d been through. I wasn’t going to have to explain things over and over again.
But not everyone feels that way. Finding a new healthcare provider can be a challenge, and you want to find someone who is the right fit for your medical and emotional needs! The answer to this can depend also on what is available in your area. Midwifery care is more common in Europe and Australia than in the United States and Canada, although in all these countries they are limited to the care of women in normal pregnancies and a previous loss means you might be considered high risk.
Some places have specialized clinics in pregnancy after loss. The originator of this model is the Rainbow Clinic in Manchester UK. Other hospitals that have specialized programs include Sunnybrook Hospital in Toronto and the Mercy Hospital in Melbourne. If you know of others, please let us know so we can add them to our resources page.
You can ask for recommendations in your area from friends. Others who have been through this before are probably your best bet. You can also ask your family doctor for recommendations. They will also likely be familiar with who might be an expert in this area.
Once you have a short list, it is okay to interview some to see if they are a good fit. Whoever you choose, you need to have enough faith in their abilities and confidence that they will deliver the best possible care. You need a strong support team and this starts with your medical professionals!
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