After experiencing pregnancy, infant, and child loss, pregnancy is never the same again. Parents pregnant with a baby born after loss need extra support and to know they are not alone. Having books to help guide parents through pregnancy after loss can be so helpful, but the typical pregnancy books don’t address the anxiety and unique experience of pregnancy after loss. Fortunately, there are pregnancy-after-loss-specific books available.
At Pregnancy After Loss Support, we know how vital this support is. Parents need resources to walk hand-in-hand with them through their subsequent pregnancies. Our online magazine and Pregnancy After Loss App walk alongside parents on this journey. We also know the value of books and have pulled together a list of pregnancy after loss guide books available to help you choose one (or more) that can help support you on your journey. We hope these books bring you encouragement and validation and have the information you need to manage your pregnancy after loss.
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Books that walk you through the pregnancy after loss journey
Rebirth: The Journey of Pregnancy After a Loss by Joey Miller, MSW, LCSW
The challenges of having another pregnancy after loss can be extensive from a physical/medical standpoint alone, but no more so than the emotional and psychological hurdles. Therapist and social worker Joey Miller has counseled women and their families on exactly these matters for nearly twenty years. In Rebirth: The Journey of Pregnancy After a Loss, she brings deep compassion, knowledge, and wisdom of both the emotional and physical roller coasters to help women and their partners tackle all the tough issues:
- How to talk to your doctor
- How to handle the emotional fallout, including dealing with your children, family members, and friends
- Physical assessments and considerations
- How to get the emotional support you need
- Support for partners/spouses
- and more
Other than personal accounts of pregnancy after loss, no other book addresses what to expect when expecting goes horribly wrong . . . and then beyond. Rebirth provides a road map for that journey. With concrete help navigating the immediate aftermath of tragedy and the difficulties re-acclimating to a very fertile world to the very mixed emotions of grieving while trying to conceive, Rebirth addresses the inconceivable with deep empathy and practical wisdom.
Watch a replay of our Instagram Live with Joey Miller to learn more about the author and her book, Rebirth.
Different Baby, Different Story: Pregnancy and Parenting after Loss by Joann O’Leary, Lynnda Parker, Margaret M. Murphy, and Jane Warland
Pregnancy after prenatal or infant loss can be a lonely and frightening time, but through stories of both pain and healing, the authors of Different Baby, Different Story: Pregnancy and Parenting After Loss show how to navigate the exciting but choppy waters of a subsequent pregnancy.
The loss of a pregnancy or newborn infant changes the meaning of pregnancy, birth, and parenting forever. Increased parental fear and anxiety, and continuing grief for the deceased baby, can impact subsequent pregnancies in unexpected ways. Parents who are unsupported in pregnancy after loss are may be more at risk of experiencing anxiety, depression, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and difficulty in attaching to a new baby.
Different Baby, Different Story explores the range of emotions, thoughts, and physical experiences of parents who have gone on to subsequent pregnancies. Including stories from mothers, fathers, other children, and extended family members, this poignant and moving work will help readers through their own feelings and give voice to those who may have felt unheard or unsupported in the past. With practical advice on self-advocacy, the book helps expectant parents gain insights as to how others learned to work with health care professionals, mental health professionals, and their own families and friends and coworkers. For expectant mothers, their partners, their families and their friends, this work supports the range of experiences and encourages readers on a path to healing.
Joy at the End of the Rainbow: A Guide for Pregnancy After a Loss by Amanda Ross-White
You’ve got What to Expect When You’re Expecting, but where do you go for a pregnancy guide when you’ve been pregnant before, and didn’t get to come home with a baby? For the nearly 2.6 million women worldwide every year who lose a baby to miscarriage, stillbirth, and early neonatal loss, this is the pregnancy guide for you. Joy at the End of the Rainbow: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Loss by Amanda Ross-White gives you a month-by-month survival guide to a pregnancy that is different from the others. If you’re worried and concerned about losing another baby, but also joyful and cautiously excited about what is to come, this book will give you solid medical information tailored to your very real concerns!
Written by a mother who has had both stillborn twins and two successful rainbow pregnancies, with guidance from the latest research on pregnancy after a loss, this guide will help you manage your anxiety as you anticipate the arrival of your rainbow child.
Author, Amanda Ross-White is a contributor at PALS. Explore her articles.
Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy after a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death by Carol Cirulli Lanham
For a woman who has experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of an infant, conceiving another child can be fraught with mixed emotions. Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy after a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death is filled with up-to-date medical information and written by Carol Cirulli Lanham, a woman who herself experienced a successful pregnancy after the loss of her first baby, can help women cope with their anxiety. It offers guidance for women asking such questions as:
- Why did it happen—and how can I make sure it doesn’t happen again?
- Will my next pregnancy be considered high-risk?
- How long should I wait before getting pregnant again?
- What can I expect at prenatal exams?
- Will I ever be able to love another baby as much as I love the one I lost?
Pregnancy after a loss can be a time of great emotional upheaval—but also, a time of healing and hope. With this sensible, sensitive guide, women can put their minds at ease—and learn to look forward to the future as they make peace with the past.
*This book was published in 1999, so some of the information is outdated, but it’s still a helpful guide for parents navigating pregnancy after loss. Read Lindsey Henke’s 2015 review of Pregnancy After Loss: A Guide.
Books that encourage and support you day-by-day
Courageously Expecting: 30 Days of Encouragement for Pregnancy After Loss by Jenny Albers
Using Scripture and personal narrative, Courageously Expecting empathizes with and empowers women to face a pregnancy after loss with faith and courage, despite inevitable feelings of grief and fear that accompany life after losing a baby.
Pregnancy is widely regarded as the most joyful time in a woman’s life, but for the mother who has experienced pregnancy loss, a subsequent pregnancy can feel like she’s holding her breath and hoping for what she can’t control. In Courageously Expecting, Jenny Albers meets women in this difficult season as someone who has also experienced the worst and cautiously hoped for the best. Through the telling of her own story, Scripture, and heartfelt prayer, she encourages readers to cling to faith in the face of fear and guides them to
- cultivate hope when doubt weighs heavy;
- realize that the past does not dictate the present or the future and that God creates a way in the wilderness of grief and loss;
- flip the script on the what-if, worst-case-scenario narrative in their minds and learn to take their thoughts captive; and
- find the courage to humble themselves and ask for and accept help from others.
Regardless of where readers are on their pregnancy after loss journey, Courageously Expecting is a companion to help them through the days when fear overshadows hope.
Author Jenny Albers is a contributor at PALS. Explore her articles.
Pregnancy After Loss: A day-by-day plan to reassure and comfort you by Zoe Clark-Coates
Pregnancy should be a time of joyous anticipation, but those forty weeks can feel very different if you are one of the many women who has previously lost a baby. In Pregnancy After Loss: A day-by-day plan to reassure and comfort you, Zoe Clark-Coates has created a compassionate and essential guide to lead you, day by day, through your pregnancy.
Addressing such issues as facing fear, coping with scans and pregnancy milestones, building relationships with your medical team, and processing your ongoing grief whilst pregnant, this is the comforting companion every pregnant woman needs by her side.
As someone who has experienced pregnancy following baby loss, Zoe fully understands all of the concerns you may be experiencing – she has been there, and now she’s here for you.
Pregnancy After Loss Support: Love Letters for Moms Pregnant After Loss, edited by Lindsey Henke and Emily Long
Pregnancy After Loss Support: Love Letters for Moms Pregnant After Loss, from Lindsey M. Henke and Emily Long, is a simple book of love written for you, a mom pregnant again after loss, from other loss moms at PALS who have been where you are now. In the pages of this book, we share letters of love from our hearts to yours with the hope that, maybe, in the darkest, loneliest hours of grief and fear, you will find a little bit of comfort in the words offered here.
Our deepest desire is for you to know that you are not alone. We are with you. When needed, let us carry your hope for you when it feels impossible to find. Let us wrap you in love and be a light in the darkness as you carry both hope and fear and engage in the most courageous act – to choose for life after you have known death.
Explore Lindsey Henke’s articles at PALS.
Books that walk you through loss, trying again, and pregnancy after loss
Unexpecting: Real Talk on Pregnancy Loss by Rachel Lewis
When your baby dies, you find yourself in a life you never expected. And even though pregnancy and infant loss is common, it’s not common to you. Instead, you feel like a stranger in your own body, surrounded by well-meaning people who often don’t know how to support you.
What you need during this time is not a book offering easy answers. You need a safe place to help you navigate tough issues, such as
- coping with a postpartum body without a baby in your arms
- facing social isolation and grief invalidation
- having faith when you feel let down by God
- dealing with the overwhelming process of making everyday decisions
- learning to move forward after loss, and
- creating a legacy for your child
In Unexpecting, bereaved mom Rachel Lewis is the friend you never hoped to need, walking you through the unique grief of baby loss. When nothing about life after loss makes sense . . . this book will.
Explore Rachel Lewis’ articles at PALS, and read our full review of Unexpecting from Kasey Schultz-Saindon.
Your Guide to Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss: Hope and healing when you’re no longer expecting by Kate White. M.D. M.P.H.
In Your Guide to Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss, Kate White, M.D., OB/GYN, miscarriage survivor, associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Boston University School of Medicine and Vice Chair of Academics in the OB/GYN department at Boston Medical Center, combines the latest medical research with the information you need—the facts and the forecasts, the hand-holding and the hope—when you experience a pregnancy loss.
Miscarriage affects almost 1 million women in the United States every year. Yet each person experiencing a pregnancy loss often feels alone and full of questions about the process and the aftermath. And today’s health care system is simply not designed to shepherd you and your family through the loss with the information and understanding you need. Dr. Kate provides an experienced hand to help guide you through this painful experience.
Dr. Kate’s book provides women and their families with the two things sorely missing from their experience: detailed answers to their questions about miscarriage, and support and guidance through the healing process. Your Guide to Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss takes readers through the journey of miscarriage diagnosis and treatment. It addresses all types of pregnancy loss—like ectopic and molar pregnancies, as well as ones that are often overlooked by the media and other books.
Filled with accessible information, frequently asked questions and answers, and methods for coping with grief, the book empowers women undergoing pregnancy loss to take control over their experience. Written from the perspective of a medical professional who has cared for women having miscarriages for more than 20 years and a woman who has experienced two miscarriages herself, Dr. Kate’s Your Guide to Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss is an earnest conversation between doctor and reader that provides compassion and guidance, as well as hope for a woman’s future pregnancy efforts.
*A note from PALS: We do not recommend this book for those who have experienced a third-trimester stillbirth or loss.
Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss Paperback by Ann Douglas and John R. Sussman, MD
Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss Paperback by Ann Douglas and John R. Sussman, MD
Written especially for parents who have lost a child, Trying Again lessens the uncertainties about pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss by providing the facts to help you determine if you and your partner are emotionally ready for another pregnancy. It also imparts essential advice about preparing and planning for another baby when you decide the time is right.
Accompanied by ob-gyn authority Dr. John R. Sussman, Ann Douglas draws from her own trial of losing a child to share firsthand details about the physical and emotional challenges of a subsequent pregnancy. She also includes the emotional stories of other women’s ordeas with pregnancy or child loss, imparting their advice and letting you know you’re not alone. By countering common fertility myths and teaching the facts about prenatal testing, Trying Again explores in detail all the pertinent procedures and measures to create the best possible conditions for a healthy baby.
*This book was published in 2000, so some of the information is outdated, but it’s still a helpful guide for parents considering trying to conceive after loss.
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