Another Mother’s Day is behind us, but Father’s Day is right around the corner.
Loss dads deserve our acknowledgement, empathy, and understanding. They are our co-parents, our partners, and often our supporters. While every family is different and every partnership is different, we have all experienced a horrible loss.
So, loss dad, I’m talking to you.
You are a father. Your child is yours, whether you carry them quietly in your heart or shout their name.
You are a father. Even if your only baby is no longer here, you will always be their daddy.
I hope you are acknowledged by others on Father’s Day. I hope you are wished a Happy Father’s Day, that you get a few cards, and that you feel loved.
I hope you know that it’s OK to share your grief, if you want to. It’s also OK not to.
If your household is pregnant after a loss, I hope you have a calm day with low anxiety and lots of baby kicks (if you are at that stage).
If you are parenting a living child, I hope you are able to enjoy cuddles and giggles with your living child(ren) while also thinking of fond memories of your lost one(s).
I hope you hear the names of all your children, and I’m sorry that you can’t hold them all together.
If your family does gifts, I hope they make you feel happy and loved.
And thank you. For all that you do as a dad and a partner. For the things you do to take care of us. For the things you did that no parent should ever have to do.