33 weeks! Getting closer each time. This week is even more special! I had the last 3D/4D scan for my Father and Husband to be present for to see baby boy! I feel like fathers aren’t celebrated as much as they should be. I knew this would be great for my father too because he has never seen baby boy on the screen, and he gets to see the best one of them all. Also, for my husband, with work, he doesn’t get to come to my weekly NST and ultrasound appointments. I wanted to make it special for him. 

Jasmine's husband at baby shower - celebrating fathers

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I want to share a letter I wrote for my husband for Fathers Day 2020 the same year we lost our first baby. 

Your calmness, love and support is beyond words could describe.

As we wait for our miracle rainbow baby to arrive.

I have to say that you are a father with such an incredible drive.

Our angel daughter would have been so amazed by how hardworking her father is.

How sweet her father is.

How caring her father is.

How funny her father is.

But, she feels it since she lives in your heart. I get to see it everyday which makes me smile knowing the father you already are and will be to our living child. 

On this Father’s Day, I just want you to know that You are loved. You are appreciated.

I know this journey to parenthood has been difficult but, not many men are like you! 

You have been involved in every step of our journey to conceive. 

Injections you have done them all. 

Talking about our future babies you have shown your emotions through it all.

You are incredibly special.

I can’t wait for you to hold our baby 

For our baby to feel safe in your arms.

For our baby to laugh every time daddy plays around.

For our baby to look into your eyes and call you Daddy. 

Truthfully you are the best husband in the world.

And there is no doubt in my mind that you will be the best father in the world.

I love you. 

Letter to my loving Husband in 2021. 

How different this year is. I am writing this letter to you to wish you another Father’s Day but this time to our baby boy we are expecting here on earthside. 

When I wrote the first letter to you on Father’s Day, I was full of so much grief and unsure if you would appreciate it because I know society makes Father’s Day seem like it’s mainly celebrated for fathers who have babies here on earth-side. 

Nick, thank you for sticking by my side through it all and reassuring me that it will happen for us.

Thank you for being the one to encourage us to go one more round. I can honestly say it is because of you I had the motivation to go for the third round of IVF. Having a partner that does not want to give up is beyond remarkable. 

Thank you for being so vulnerable about your own grief of losing our first baby and struggling with the wait due to infertility. You made me feel like I could have that safe space to talk and not be the only one alone. Not many men may be able to do that. 

Even if I am the one that went through physical pain, we both went through the emotional pain. You have endured so much in this journey and you deserve to be celebrated on this Father’s Day and every day.

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