Pregnancy after loss is filled with many conflicting emotions, and it can be incredibly challenging to stay positive during such an anxiety-filled nine months. Here are some tips for building positivity during your pregnancy after loss.
1. Make a daily gratitude list.
Each day, either in the morning or before you go to sleep, reflect on at least one thing that you’re thankful for in your life.
2. Post inspirational notes on your mirror.
Or the fridge, just a little positive reminder to get your day going. I like to stick my intentions on sticky notes on my mirror and my computer.
3. Perform acts of kindness.
Doing something nice for someone, the smallest unexpected gestures will make others happy and adds positivity to your life as well. It can be as simple as finding something special to compliment on when feeling rushed or dropping off a flower bouquet at a neighbor’s house.
4. Reduce negative influences.
The things we surround ourselves with and listen to have a big impact on our mindset, both negative and positive. Do your best to stay away from other negative people, negative news, and negative events. Instead spend time with those who build you up. As we couple or become like the people you spend the most time with.
5. Be fully present.
It is too easy to be constantly distracted. Looking at our phones and thinking about everything we have to do or should be doing. Being fully present takes practice, but it pays huge dividends, short term and long term.
6. Spend time at the start of each day on self-care.
With all the demands on our time, there’s always other priorities and people vying for our attention. But in order to take care of them or those tasks you first need to take care of yourself. Self-care involves not just our bodies, but also our minds and our moods.
7. Focus on solutions, not the problems.
When something goes wrong, it’s the negative people who complain and don’t fix things. Somethings cannot be fixed. But positive people do the opposite. They work towards a healthy pregnancy and birth, BEFORE the birth. By reducing your risks before the birth, many of the risks can be managed or eliminated. By working with your team to address fears, concerns, and health, you can stay focused on strategies and solutions. And there’s nothing more positive than that.
This one may sound cheesy but believe me — smiling more often does all sorts of good things. You can start by smiling at your neighbors, your mailperson, your barista, and during your commute. Plus, smiling has been shown to improve the mood.